Recently I wrote a guest blog post on the advice I would give myself 10 years ago - here they are:
1. Take Responsibility for yourself
Someone once told me about a young boy who was struck by all the injustice in the world, he prayed: “Lord, give me the strength to change the world.” Then as a young man, he realised the injustice was just too great, he prayed: “Lord, at least let me change my family and close friends.” Towards the end of his life, upon reflection, he prayed: “Father, at least allow me to change myself”. The lord replied, “This is the prayer you should have asked in the beginning.”
2. It’s all about you – just the way you are.
Believe that you are enough, stop hustling, achieving, working harder and striving for success – what is success??? I worked so hard 10 years ago, striving for a car, nice house, next promotion. All the things that look great on the outside, but the happiness and feeling great didn’t last, none of these things honoured the authentic person God created me to be. Instead of striving the whole time, start to believe you are enough get to know your own values.
3. Learn how to ask questions.
I still have a horrid habit of listening to people so I can jump in with my own thoughts, rather than really understanding what they are saying, what they are feeling, and taking notice of them. Valuing their thoughts and feelings rather than adding my own experiences.
4. ‘Be Still and Know that I am God’, Psalm 46:10.
Take regular time outs – each day, week, month, year. Elite athletes have a structured rest days added into their training plan – so should we. Stop racing through life at such a pace.
5. Be quick to laugh and learn to laugh at yourself.
You can’t control circumstances – but you can control your response:
6. Give it a try – stretch yourself, every Professional was beginner once.
Travel, hang out with people from different background, culture, faith – learn to notice how God is at work all over the world, through variety of different types of churches, families and individuals.
7. Surround yourself with people that bring out the best in you.
“What you stuff your face with, shapes who you are.” It’s the people that love you in spite of your flaws who you should cherish, forgive and strive to make happy. Whether they are your boyfriend, your best friend or your mother. Relationships of all kinds will have their ups and downs, but working things out and making the other person a priority is the only way to make them stronger.
8. Be careful who you marry.
Make sure he values the same things you value, that he is happy to support your career aspirations and parenting values, that you both want similar things out of life.
9. “Your opinion of me is none of my business”
Let go of what others think of you, I still struggle with this – I chase external validation, I want the medal or gold star, I often didn’t do things because I was worried about what people would think of me. Its better to try and fail than to never try at all. Don’t let other people’s opinions stop you from doing what you want to do. Take a small first step or open a door to new opportunities and let God do the rest!
10. Becoming a mother has taught me to notice the Extraordinary in the Ordinary.
To experience things as if it was the first time, to see the joy around us, to create joyful moments.
Over the next 10 years - I hope too:
I am still learning to:
- Work through my bucket list of things I want to do, and how to live out my values.
- Each conversation learning to ask 2 – 3 questions.
- Structure in a daily 15 minutes quiet time, a weekly treat, monthly weekend break, annual holiday.
- Taking a moment to switch off and relax.
- Trying new thing or different ways of doing things each week / month or year.
- Developing true friendships – investing in those friends that bring out the best in me
- Slow down and appreciate the people & world around me
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What would your 10 things be? Do you agree / disagree with any of the above?